Getting to know you question
Getting to know you question

It's the day of the first date with someone you've been talking to for a while. A game of questions will take place, not only to start the conversation, but also to show that you are interested in each other. There's no shortage of questions, but it has to be said that some of them can seem awkward or even downright inappropriate. So rather than jeopardise your chances of entering a phase of seduction and rapprochement, here are 8 questions to ask to get to know each other in the right spirit.

1- How are you?

Classic, yes, but it helps to lighten the mood a bit before talking about more confidential things. We sometimes tend to forget this basic question when we first meet, but it's essential. The answer can be a simple "How are you doing?", but it can also be an opportunity to follow up with a situation you experienced at the time or a funny anecdote.

2- How long have you lived here?

A question you can ask a woman to find out if she has always lived here or if she has moved to other cities, or even other parts of the world. There are always a thousand and one things to say about where we live.

3- Do you like living here?

A good question to ask to find out how the person feels about their place of residence. They can talk about the general atmosphere of the city or about the places they love to go to: bars, restaurants, museums, etc.

4- What are your hobbies?

To get to know someone better, an interesting question to ask is about their hobbies. In other words, what they like to do in their spare time. They might talk about practising an art, a musical instrument or a sport. Or perhaps they simply enjoy walking in nature or spending time with friends.

In any case, it's a quick way of finding out if you have any shared passions or hobbies.

5- What do you do for a living?

As the discussion progresses and if there is a gap, you can follow up with a question about work. "What do you do for a living" is less incisive than "What's your job", in case the person is not working. Whatever the case, there are always plenty of things to say about your job or a professional project you'd like to pursue.

6- What is your favourite film/book?

It's a question that may seem strange when it comes out of the blue. But if you have to talk about cinema or literature, don't hesitate to ask about the favourite work of the person in front of you!

7- Do you have any brothers or sisters?

By asking someone if they have brothers or sisters, they can tell you about their relationship with their family and their childhood. This is often a good way of going back in time and learning more about their past.

8- What do you look for in someone?

Rather than asking a woman directly what type of man she is, why not ask her what she is looking for in someone? She'll then be able to describe the qualities she expects, such as attentiveness, a sense of humour, independence, loyalty and so on.

Here, too, you can see if you have common expectations and if your personalities match.